Written by Juli Shulem
Worried & Anxious? These Steps Could Help
Feelings of anxiety can affect anyone, and for a variety of reasons. Sometimes the sensation can be overwhelming and paralyzing making getting through the day challenging at best. Many clients I work with express their feelings of anxiety, worry, and stress --- and we work through this from a coaching perspective. The majority of the time the anxiety is reduced or quelled entirely in a matter of minutes with a short conversation and reframing their mindset.
Here is the process in 3 easy steps with 2 Questions and 1 Mantra:
Question #1: “What expectation is not being met?”
When we can think through a problem in order to discover the expectations, we may have that aren’t being met, then we learn what we are working with. What are you anxious about right now? What had you expected would happen with respect to that situation? Did someone not
deliver something you have been waiting on and now the task you need to do is delayed? Was
something scheduled to happen and it didn’t and now you are ruminating on the ramifications
of that mishap? Write down what expectation you had that fell short in whatever way, and sit
with it for a minute and assess if that is the root of the anxiety for you right now. Once you
have found the real culprit for your anxiety - move on to this question: What decision are you
afraid of making moving forward? What would such a decision mean for you or others? Are
you able and capable to implement the next move?
Now ponder Question #2: “What is the worst that can happen?”